Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Break Time
"Therefore encourage one another, and build up one another..." 1 Thess 5:11
Monday, April 21, 2008
Friday, April 18, 2008
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
Nate Saint
Once again I wasn't able to get through the ending of the Nate Saint book without tears. The kids always look at me kind of funny when I cry over a book (be it about a martyr or Laura Ingalls!), so I tried to help them understand that this man was somebody's real Daddy, somebody's real son and brother.
I think next we'll read The Hiding Place, one of my all-time favorite books.
Monday, April 14, 2008
Helpmeet Book, Part 2
As I said in the last post, there were many things that I was initially excited about. I am a person who loves practical application, so I was energized by the things Debi suggested to do to bless your husband. Take care of yourself, think about ways to serve and make him comfortable, be careful to respect him with your speech, initiate intimacy and be 'into' it. That said, when I closed the book, I had a weird feeling that took me some time to put my finger on. After talking to Kevin and thinking some more, I think what bothered me is that Debi's 'straight talk' can come across as extremely unloving and ungracious toward struggling women. Which comes across as pride. The tone of the book was at times, unsettling.
Another problematic 'tone' of the book is how much of the responsibility she puts on the wife to create that 'heavenly marriage'. One example is the advise she gives a lady who is at her wits' end with her husband. This woman bemoans the fact that her house is basically falling down around her ears: trash in the yard, broken and leaky plumbing, screens with holes in them, toilets that need replacing. The woman says her husband has put off doing any work on these problems for months, but runs out to help every other person who calls for help with their handy-man needs. Perhaps this woman could handle picking up the trash herself, and maybe fixing a screen door, but that's really beside the point. Debi Pearl calls this woman a 'dumb cluck' and advises her to learn how to do all the fixing herself! In another part of the book, she says that we should 'paint the hall and cut the grass' so our husbands can go golfing. I completely agree that we should look for ways to serve and bless our husbands, but after reading this book, I can't help but think that women are being a bit devalued here.
There is a lot of good encouragement contained here, but surely there is a similar book out there that has the diamonds without all the rocks.
Sunday, April 13, 2008
The Other Side
The women would have to rise early every day and get themselves to work, on time, knowing that difficult coworkers, bosses, and customers await, as well as competition amongst the ranks. Often they are under-appreciated. The full weight of providing for a spouse and children is always on their minds. Savings? Retirement? College? Making the monthly budget stretch? It's all up to them, and they bear the burden of this pressure.
After being away all day at work and emotionally exhausted, the ladies will be met at home with even more responsibility. The kids will need disciplining, the husband will demand help and relief as he too is tired after his day with the kids.
The ladies will be ultimately responsible for the spiritual training, nurturing, and growth of the kids. Before the Lord. (Wow.) They are also held accountable for the behavior and reputation of their husbands before the Lord and others.
When there is a strange noise downstairs at two o'clock in the morning, the husband will huddle under the covers while the ladies must don their robes and bravely check things out. Bravely.
The ladies will be responsible to pay close attention to the care and maintenance of all family vehicles. This includes oil changes and tire rotations, as well as being alert to strange noises. the ladies must research and locate the most honest and reasonably-priced mechanic available, or do the work themselves. And figure out how to fit the cost of parts and labor into the budget.
All rodent and insect elimination is the sole responsibility of the wives.
I don't know about you, girls, but I am soo glad to be a woman, with a woman's job of keeping my home! I can't imagine all the pressure and responsibility that men must face! I could have added a description about all the sexu@l temptation men must deal with at every turn, but couldn't quite figure how to equivocate that one. That issue alone must be exhausting to a godly man who is fighting against it and who strives to be a 'one-woman man'. And I know that this little list doesn't begin to cover the struggles, pressures, and responsibilities that men face on a daily basis.
Just as the image of a man wearing make-up and polishing his nails is weird and disgusting, so is the thought of the woman creeping downstairs in the middle of the night to check out a scary noise, while her husband cowers in bed.
Forgive me for my un-funny little post. I am so glad that men are created to be manly, and different, than women. Aren't you?
Saturday, April 12, 2008
Helpmeet Book, Part 1
Initially, I was really excited and inspired by the encouragement to really be the kind of woman your husband wants to come home to. Lots of good and very practical advise. Debi has a very feisty, straightforward style that's refreshing in a day when lots of writing geared toward women can come across as fluffy and so gentle as to not plainly state hard truths. Not the case here. Pretty in-your-face, like one example when she answers a letter and paints a bleak picture of what will happen if this woman continues to drive her husband away: poverty, loneliness, and stress of being a single mother.
A couple of things have given me pause, though. She asserts that there are three types of men, based on the three main attributes of God. This seems a bit unfounded, in my opinion. I don't know, I just get kind of wary when bold assertions can't be clearly backed up with scripture...The point she's making is a good one, I think: learn what your husband needs so you can be his 'perfect' fit. However, the descriptions of the types of husbands seem a little weird to me. I can't quite put my finger on it...so maybe it's too early to blog about my opinion. I will be getting back to this book in more posts as I progress.
Have any of you read this book? Any thoughts?
Moms, Need a Laugh?
I don't know who wrote this, so unfortunately I don't know who to give credit for this little funny...
Enjoy!
The next "Survivor" series:
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Why I Should Avoid the Mall Like the Plague
It started with an innocent little coupon. Not just any ol' coupon, but one for a free pair of, um, unmentionables from a particular unmentionable store that I normally do not buy from. And, no purchase was required to use this thing. Anyone who knows me is probably aware that I am a sucker for any kind of money-saving bargain. I was obviously going to have to venture to the nicer mall in town, and on the way there, I was giving myself a little talk in my head. (Does anyone else do this? Just humor me and pretend you do so I won't feel weird.) It went like this: "In, and out. Get the free stuff and run. Lots of bright and shiny store displays. Temptation will be everywhere. Be aware that they want to take your money. Don't fall for it!"
My first mistake was going into one of my favorite stores, just to look, mind you.
The picture here tells what happened. Thankfully, I had somewhere to be by 3:15 that forced me to get out of the evil hypnotizing place. I am still trying to figure out what category I will need to steal money from to make this work.