Beauty in the Christian Home

"A Christian should live artistically, aesthetically, and creatively. If we have been created in the image of an Artist, then we should look for expressions of artistry." --Edith Schaeffer

When I was a newlywed, our pastor's wife recommended The Hidden Art of Homemaking to me. It was so different than anything I'd ever read before, and I loved Edith Scheaffer's thoughts on finding the value in the beauty of everyday things. She talked about things like setting a beautiful table for your family, or bringing fresh flowers into your home. It's been at least 10 years since I first read that book, but her thoughts on making a home for your family have stayed with me.

I think beauty is important. I'm not talking about the beauty that necessarily comes from expensive things or obsessive perfection, but rather that of a home reflecting and celebrating the beauty and order that God has created for our enjoyment. Like so many things in life, it's all about motivation. Do I want beauty in my home to impress others, or to cause others to look to the glory and beauty of God? I have to confess that I've had both motivations. But the goal should always be--in all things--God's glory.

So, I'm interested in your thoughts. Do you think this is 'pie-in-the-sky' thinking? What priority do you give to beauty in your home?

Sweeties

V-E Day (Victory over Expectations Day)

I have always loved Valentine's Day. All the cards, the stickers, the glitter and scissors...and, of course, the candy. I think partly this is because my Mother always made a big deal about the holiday. Even when I was in high school she would buy my brother and me a small gift and candy. And every year she bakes and mails the most wonderful iced sugar cookies to me.

Well, not to me anymore, but to the kids. I get my share, though.

I have in years past had great, nebulous expectations about what amazing and romantic thing my husband was going to do for me, and though he has done some pretty romantic things over the years, this kind of thinking almost always leads to disappointment, I find. This pattern of thinking (read:selfish) has caused me a lot of heartache in my life. And I'm not just talking about as it relates to Valentine's Day. This year....every day, actually, I want to do better at blessing my husband, not imagining the blessing I want to get. Don't get me wrong; I love the cards and candy and romance, but I've just learned that really, the celebration should be about what your marriage is the other 364 days. Forgive me if I'm a bit serious about this topic today. I've recently gotten some sad news that has reminded me to not take my man for granted, to love him and focus on him more than I focus on me. So...today and tomorrow, I'm going to be thankful for my Valentine: roses, candy, romantic dinner, or no.

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Philippians 2:4

My Favorite 39 Things about My Favorite 39-Year-Old

1. He plays hard with the kids. Lots of roughhousing and screaming.

2. He loves sports-playing and watching. Very manly. :)

3. He is patient with me when I have emotional days and doesn't panic when I cry.

4. He is a lawn-guy, and makes our yard look great. He mows and edges and even sweeps up all those clippings--never blows them into the street.

5. He is tender with our babies and spoils them probably more than I do.

6. He makes a mean hot sandwich.

7. He's thankful when I prepare food for him--whether it's fancy or just a sandwich.

8. He makes time for each of our children.

9. He loves God and seeks Him every day.

10. He is humble and can receive correction from others.

11. He's naturally athletic and can play sports well even if he's 'out of practice'. Let's hope our children get these genes from him, because goodness knows they aren't getting 'em from me.

12. He is a whiz with computers.

13. He puts people at ease, has a great laugh, and a great sense of humor.

14. He likes to read books about theology.

15. He reads the Bible to the kids almost every day.

16. He does things right. I may be able to clean up the kitchen in half the time, but it looks much better when he does it. Things shine.

17. He happily drives a not-so-hot car because it's payed for.

18. He sings loudly in church.

19. He always apologized first after we have an argument. This can actually be kind of irritating. :)

20. He looks fantastic in a suit and tie.

21. He watches Jane Austen movies with me.

22. He encourages me with homeschooling the kids when I feel discouraged.

23. He sends sweet emails and leaves thoughtful messages on my phone.

24. He is a really fun Daddy. The kids like it when he goes to the grocery store because he buys Pop-Tarts and things I never do.

25. He allows me to decorate the way I want to. He has no problem lounging on a flowery chair while he watches football.

26. He reassures me patiently when I'm feeling insecure.

27. He spends time with his guy friends, but not so much that it's at the expense of our family.

28. He provides for our family financially.

29. He tackles 'honey-do' lists with a good attitude.

30. He changes the channel when inappropriate commercials come on.

31. He looks away when inappropriately-dressed women walk by. These last two are so honoring to me as a wife.

32. He pays attention to politics, but trusts in God.

33. When I need something (want something?) he is very generous with me and almost always encourages me to get what I need/want. I have to be careful not to take advantage of this. :)

34. He loves that I try to be frugal.

35. He makes our bed every day.

36. He leads our family lovingly but firmly.

37. He is committed to our marriage and isn't content to 'drift'.

38. He constantly examines himself and strives to be a better man.

39. He gets better and better with age! I love you, Kevin! Happy Birthday!

Gentle and Quiet Spirit

I've been on a bit of an unintentional blogging break. Nothing bad's going on; but life's just seemed so busy lately...moreso than usual. I've been thinking about how to simplify. Surely, I keep thinking, there are some things that I can change to slow down the pace a little. I suspect, though, that this is just the pace of life and I need to deal with it better.

This morning I was working through my bible study and finishing up the chapter on 'Excellence: Made Precious by a Gentle and Quiet Spirit'. This study has been so wonderful and has really caused me to examine myself and encouraged me to cultivate this quality. However, I may need to re-read this chapter beginning tomorrow! I think I frowned a lot yesterday and my kids didn't see much gentleness and quietness. I felt a bit stressed and hurried and I know it showed. Praise God that His mercies are new today! Lamentations 3:22-23

I have noticed that wherever there has been a faithful following of the Lord in a consecrated soul, several things have, sooner or later, inevitably followed. Meekness and quietness of spirit become in time the characteristics of the daily life. A submissive acceptance of the will of God, as it comes in the hourly events of each day, is manifested; pliability in the hands of God to do or to suffer all the good pleasure of His will; sweetness under provocation; calmness in the midst of turmoil and bustle; a yielding to the wishes of others, and an insensibility to slights and affronts; absence of worry or anxiety; deliverance from care and fear, --all these, and many other similar graces, are invariably founds to be the natural outward development of the inward life which is hid with Christ in God.
--Hannah Whitall Smith

Calvin & Hobbes Trivia

I discovered today that the Calvin & Hobbes comic strip by Bill Watterson was named after two very important historical figures: Thomas Hobbes, English philosopher, and John Calvin, French theologian. Very cool!

Mint Chocolate Oreos

"You guys have been holding out on me."